Every day is worth living

The following post appeared on 28 January as a guest blog on Social Smarts, on whose advisory board I am honored to serve.

Do you ever delve into a stack of statistics and just find yourself mesmerized by the data, data that shocks your inner core?  I had that happen to me recently as I was doing some fact checking surrounding instances of children committing suicide, specifically children who were bullied into suicide by others (both adults and children).  I concluded, we lose too many precious children to “bullycide.”

According to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (NSPL) a person dies of suicide about every 15 minutes or approximately 96 people take their own life each day.  Sadly, for every person who succeeds, there have been between 8 and 25 failed attempts.  That math works out to approximately 800 to 2400 attempted suicides in the United States each day. 

Looking solely at the numbers for youth between the ages of 5 and 19 we see that right around age 10, suicide moves up to the third leading cause of death (See table 1).  Sadly, according to the NSPL, the suicide rate amongst young people has more than doubled over the past two decades.

Rank	Ages 5-9	Ages 10-14	Ages 15-19
1	Unintentional Injury 1,072	Unintentional Injury 1,343	Unintentional Injury 6,616
2	Malignant Neoplasms 485	Malignant Neoplasms 515	Homicide 2,076
3	Congenital Anomalies 196	Suicide 270	Suicide 1,613
4	Homicide 121	Homicide 220	Malignant Neoplasms 731
5	Heart Disease 106	Congenital Anomalies 200	Heart Disease 389

Table 1: Leading Cause of Death of Children

Digging a bit deeper into the available information, I wanted to know where, geographically, suicides were occurring.  I was startled.  No state is exempt.  According to the National Center for Health Statistics, based on 2007 data (the most recent), the top ten states are:   Alaska, Montana, New Mexico, Wyoming, Nevada, Colorado, West Virginia, Arizona, Oregon and Kentucky based on the number of suicides per 100,000 of population.   (See table two)

I then started digging to see if the statistics would tell me how many of these were the result of bullying? My digging found that in 2010, I was able to confirm 30 cases of suicide which the family, friends, or authorities attributed to bullying.  The age of the children ranged from 9-19 years of age (9-1, 10-0, 11-2, 12-2, 13-3, 14-4, 15-6, 16-2, 17-5, 18-2 and 19-3).   I also found that the vast majority of these suicides were at the first and last thirds of the traditional school year (16 suicides Sep-Nov and 10 suicides Mar-May).  Perhaps this is coincidence how the frequency of bullycide coincides with the academic school year.  (For additional reading see: Bullycide, the end result of cyberbullying and Bullycide: My Time Has Come So Now I’m Gone )

I think you would agree that given the alignment between school year and children being bullied into suicide that an individual investment in educating and making all concerned aware of the realities is warranted.  

Allow me to call you to action:

• Encourage your children to accept who they are, and be all they can be with the capabilities given to them.
• Direct our young on appropriate use of the Internet as a tool of collaboration, knowledge sharing and commerce, and not as a tool of hate.
• Make it your business to know and understand the many ways in which your child is engaging online and communicating – Smartphone, laptop, Xbox or wii and where: your house, your neighbors, the library, etc.  Then monitor this activity.  I’ve often said, it is not espionage to know who and what your child is being exposed to online or via any other communications medium.
• Teach your young how to cope when overwhelmed.
• Ensure your child understands mistakes are universal, and unless it stops the sun from rising in the morn, you and they can work through the error.
• Show your child how to report and confront bullying and call it out as wrong. Show them how to do this in a non-confrontational, but direct manner.  To be a silent witness is to endorse the action.

If we are able to collectively work together, we can save a life, we can save many lives and in doing so we will demonstrate to the children, every day is worth living.

Rank	State (2006 rank)	Number of Suicides	Population	Rate
1	Alaska (3)	149	681,111	21.8
2	Montana (2)	196	956,624	20.5
3	New Mexico (5)	401	1,964,402	20.4
4	Wyoming (1)	101	523,252	19.3
5	Nevada (4)	471	2,554,344	18.4
6	Colorado (9)	811	4,842,770	16.7
7	West Virginia (12)	300	1,809,836	16.6
8	Arizona (6T)	1,016	6,353,421	16.0
9	Oregon (8)	594	3,735,549	15.9
10	Kentucky (13)	649	4,236,308	15.3
11	Idaho (10)	223	1,496,145	14.9
11	North Dakota (15)	95	637,904	14.9
13	Oklahoma (11)	531	3,608,123	14.7
14	Maine (27T)	191	1,315,398	14.5
15	Utah (16)	378	2,668,925	14.3
15	Vermont (21T)	89	620,748	14.3
17	Arkansas (20)	402	2,830,557	14.2
17	Florida (19)	2,587	18,199,526	14.2
19	Kansas (17)	382	2,777,382	13.8
20	Missouri (18)	808	5,878,399	13.7
20	Tennessee (14)	844	6,149,116	13.7
22	Mississippi (36T)	396	2,921,030	13.6
23	Washington (23)	865	6,449,511	13.4
24	Wisconsin (27T)	729	5,598,893	13.0
25	Alabama (24)	592	4,626,595	12.8
25	South Dakota (6T)	102	795,689	12.8
27	Indiana (21T)	790	6,335,862	12.5
28	Louisiana (29T)	522	4,373,310	12.2
29	New Hampshire (31T)	158	1,312,256	12.0
29	South Carolina (26)	530	4,404,914	12.0
31	North Carolina (25)	1,077	9,041,594	11.9
32	Pennsylvania (34T)	1,441	12,419,930	11.6
33	Virginia (31T)	880	7,698,775	11.4
34	Ohio (29T)	1,295	11,477,641	11.3
35	Michigan (34T)	1,131	10,049,790	11.2
36	Delaware (39)	95	861,953	11.0
36	Minnesota (38)	572	5,182,360	11.0
38	Iowa (36T)	322	2,983,360	10.8
39	Georgia (41)	997	9,523,297	10.4
39	Hawaii (42)	133	1,277,356	10.4
41	Nebraska (31T)	181	1,769,473	10.2
41	Texas (40)	2,433	23,843,432	10.2
43	California (43)	3,602	36,377,534	9.9
44	Maryland (44)	518	5,618,899	9.2
45	Rhode Island (45)	96	1,053,136	9.1
46	Illinois (47)	1,108	12,825,809	8.6
47	Massachusetts (48)	516	6,467,915	8.0
48	Connecticut (46)	271	3,489,868	7.7
49	New York (49)	1,396	19,429,316	7.2
50	New Jersey (50)	596	8,653,126	6.9
51	District of Columbia (51)	36	587,868	6.1
Total		34,598	301,290,332	11.5

Table 2:  National Center for Health Statistics for the year 2007.